2 years on and most people dont know-What Is Domestic Violence?
July 24, 2022I feel this is a really important blog post since I have been safe from my abusive ex husband now for 2 years. It took 5 years ( almost 10 year marriage) to get out.
Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse.
Most just assume that domestic violence means your getting punched in the face, thanks to all those movies and rediculous ” shorts” going around.
The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.
Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality.
It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death.
The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.
I still suffer flash backs, nightmares and panic attacks. You may think, thats horrible, well, it kind of is. But knowing that I’m safe and that the worst pain and suffering is him having to accept that I got out, I took back control of my life and that I moved on!
He is still stuck in that loop hole of abuse that he tries to now and then throw at me because of our contact for custody, that is a topic for another day. Long story short, I have healing to go, hurdles to jump, but he is the miserable one, NOT me!